Branding Yourself a Diva

by Cecile Peterkin

She walks into a room, heads turn.
She grabs life and won't let it go.
She expects the best, and gets the best.
Does what she wants.
Control her destiny.
Always the "Belle of the Ball".
Has "Star Power" and use it confidently.
Influence her circumstances.

Divas are not selfish, they are self-reliant. Divas don't expect others to make them happy; they make themselves happy. Divas never settle for less; they only accept the best.

The credo she lives by is, don't whine about it! Do something about it. And don't worry about what anybody thinks. If you do what you want, at least one person will be happy!

Unfortunately most women do care what others think. So they sit demurely and ask for little - and guess what? Little is what they get.

Getting the best!
When you feel entitled to the best, you often get the best. Divas attract high followings because they expect adoration and those around them sense that and give it to them. They are always in demand. The less you're available, the more in demand you are.

If you're always working late for no extra pay, employers will come to expect that from you. If you're always available to take on the impossible projects, employers will turn to you for them. If you're always willing to meet impossible schedules everyone will come to expect that of you. However, on the other hand, if you set limits to what you will and will not do, those around you will perceive your time as "precious" and be grateful to get some of it. Define your boundaries, be clear to yourself and others, and follow the rules of your heart.

Your Belief Becomes Your Reality
Women sell themselves short - they aim low. They also tend to feel they do not have control over choices or circumstances. They tolerate situations and people who are bothersome - they suffer in silence, frustrated and resentful.

For women to become divas, they have to commit gender violation and risk not being liked by peers who view them as too aggressive. The paradox is divas are so much themselves that people are naturally magnetized to the women who exude confidence. Therefore, you have to build your strength inside and out. Spend time with positive people who will help to empower you. When you attract the right people and force in your life, you become confident, authentic and fearless - believe in yourself.

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face - do the things you think you cannot do.
A diva expects more and tolerates less.

Whose life are you living? Are you living the life you always imaged? Or are you settling for someone else's idea of you life? Are you chasing your dreams or someone else's? Are you playing it safe so that your life remains comfortable and unthreatened?

Are you making so many compromises that you feel something is missing in your life? Even if you have a strong and focused pursuit, are you happy with the progress you are making? What is getting in the way?

The answers to these questions lie in your truth - find it.

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